Dispatches

This survey, for military members and their families, was published by Hill Air Force Base's Hilltop Times — although it's likely useful for anyone in a potentially violent or emotionally abusive relationship.

Does your partner ...

____ Embarrass you in front of friends or family, or drive your friends and family away?

____ Curse or scream at you, call you names or put you down?

____ Use intimidation or threats to get you to do what he/she wants?

____ Tell you that you are nothing without them?

____ Grab, push, pinch, shove, slap, choke, punch, kick, bite, spank, scratch, burn or restrain you?

____ Throw objects or break your possessions?

____ Threaten the safety of children or pets?

____ Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?

____ Behave jealously, accusing you of flirting or cheating?

____ Withhold approval, appreciation or affection as punishment?

____ Control your access to money and transportation?

____ Use alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?

____ Blame you for how they feel or act?

____ Pressure you sexually for things you don't want to do?

Do you...

____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?

____ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner's behavior?

____ Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?

____ Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?

____ Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?

____ Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you left?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. Domestic violence doesn't just stop on its own. Call for help today.

For Utah military members: The Family Advocacy Program is available to help military families prevent and end abuse. If you're experiencing abuse or feel you're at risk, or to report suspected abuse, please call (801)777-3497.

For anyone: Call the statewide toll free "Hotline" at 1-800-897-LINK, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 and TTY 1-800-787-3224.