Wired for love
Natasha Saje, a poet and an instructor at Salt Lake City's Westminister College, has a "Modern Love" essay in The New York Times. She writes of the final days of her husband Tyrone's life. A mixed race couple, they found solace and connection in, of all things, the hardcore TV drama The Wire.I believe we choose the sort of people we fall in love with. We envision a type, or we pursue an idea of how we see ourselves or want to be seen. Maybe we are defining ourselves out of rebellion. Of course, I realized this about myself only in hindsight, the fact that I was looking to break with convention, to not be bound by my parents’ expectations.
So, yes, maybe I was looking for someone like Tyrone, but not consciously — we just met and fell in love. Among the things that attracted me to him were his cotton shirts, his sense of style and quality, which carried through to his cooking. . . .
Every morning and every night — up until the last 36 hours, when he couldn’t speak — Tyrone would say to me: “Another day. I’m glad to see it.” We celebrated his ability to read the newspaper, to eat the flan I made, to sit with me in the den and watch yet another episode of “The Wire.”
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